There is so much going on that I have had a tough time of keeping it all in order. I wish everyone truly understood that this is not only an important time for me, but also extremely stressful. Everyone has his or her opinion on what should happen, how it should happen and it’s timed down to the last second. I think my planner even has my bathroom moments timed.
I need to take a moment and really search for my dress. I actually have a good idea about the style I want and actually want to design it myself. Is that simply crazy?? I also know that I want two more party dresses to change. One for the family reception and then one for the real party with our friends that evening. I also think that since we are now planning a breakfast the next morning with family and friends, I need yet one more outfit.
Yes there are just five days until our wedding, but I know that it will come together….I think.
Let’s take it one at a time. Remember first, you must breathe. I’ve seen more than one bride (and a few grooms) topple over because they get so stressed that they forget to take a moment to relax. Secondly, this is your wedding – you and Will. Nothing will happen before you both arrive so if you’re a few moments late…so be it! Just don’t ‘be 30 minutes or more because that would be rude.
Communication with Will is extremely key at this time. This is your partner and the person that you are saying (and he to you) that you want to spend the rest of your life with. That means that you can discuss everything and truly share the stresses of this time with each other. If he is a good guy, he’ll do his best to help you and you know what, I’m sure he’s a bit stressed as well. If you can, why not take a few hours for a date? Go to lunch, hang out in the park, go for a couples massage or take in a funny movie. Just the two of you – away from all the prying eyes. Connect and remember this: The Wedding is one day….the Marriage begins after the party stops.
I was wondering if you had your dress yet. After just coming back from bridal market in NYC a few weeks ago, there are so many designers that have beautiful gowns. There is Sassi Holsford, Temperly, Jasper Conran and Jenny Packham who are among my favorite British designers and who could absolutely design for the church or your receptions and parties.
There are also several other designers who have a princess like theme this year and I think they would be lovely for any of your wedding dresses. Some of my favorites include Monique Lhuillier, St. Pucchi, Reem Acra, Claire Pettibone and of course Carolina Herrera. A relatively new bridal designer, but he’s dressed lots of A-list celebrities, is Kevan Hall. Priscilla of Boston has five separate lines under their umbrella that are beautiful, but Vintage line is my favorite for its chic, sophisticated yet youthful feel. If you truly wanted to help design your own gown, you should set up an appointment with Amsale, Alfred Angelo, and Reem Acra who I know are always happy to collaborate with a bride that wants to help design their own gown.
Remember to breathe and all will be well.