Ok…so you know, no dad is going to let some ‘woman’ dress-down his little girl right?!
If you read my post yesterday about the Mother-in-lawzilla Carolyn Bourne and her super nasty emails to her future daughter-in-law Heidi Withers, well Heidi’s dad Alan Withers comes to the rescue. I love that he’s called his future in-law a ‘snotty Miss Fancy Pants’. He’s also said that Carolyn Bourne,
‘has her head stuck so far up her own a*** she doesn’t know whether to speak or f**t. I don’t care if she apologizes. You can’t take back what has been said once it’s said.’
So it seems that the reason for the original three (yup three emails) is because Mrs. Bourne said that Heidi had poor table manners, insulted the family in public, created anxiety in their dog Bomber, her parents not contributing very much money toward the wedding and failed to send a handwritten card to thank her after the weekend stay at the family home. Don’t get me wrong; I love a good hand written note (I send them often) and believe they should be sent when you are visiting someone as their guest. Someone that is soon to be family – I don’t believe it’s necessary. If that is the case, I owe my parents a lot of notes for the times I’ve gone home to visit.
Let’s face it, the in-law relationship is tricky. Sometimes you get really lucky and have the best in-laws ever. They get along with your parents, you get along…it’s one big party. Most times, either you or your partner gets the better end of the deal. So your parents treat your husband like he’s family, but your mother in law speaks to you once a year…if that often. I think the bottom line is that it’s up to you to speak to your parent(s) and remind them that this is the person chosen and if they don’t have something nice to say…don’t say anything at all.